I am the father of a daughter and a son, born 2000 and 2002 respectively, whom my wife and I educate at home. These are open letters, from me to the two of them in hopes that they may have something permanent in their hands with their father’s signature on it.
This site arose from eight or so years of blogging in which time I have developed, shall we say, a relationship with the world of the internet. I have discovered a few things that I’ll mention here in passing before I sew them into a whole cloth. This internet thing is a great place to interact with ideas, and even to learn how to interact… civilly. Going back a few years I can read things that I’d forgotten that I’d ever written. And I must admit that I was more than a little ashamed of the sometimes arrogant, condescending things I said, and the unloving and uncaring way that I said it. Without the blogosphere, I might have never had the opportunity to learn such a valuable lesson. Blogging has also afforded me the time to analyze and think about the thoughts of those with whom I disagree; to unpack and to understand them in ways that ordinary conversation simply will not allow.
Also, the blogosphere introduced to me another completely new thing. It introduced to me yet another monster that would devour my attention and time with ever more ferocity. When I would sit down to my computer the clock would disappear. Hours would seem like minutes, with too many minutes passed. Then I had an epiphany a few years ago. It happened that I was writing, probably about the importance of family and fatherhood, or following Jesus or some such thing, and it hit me; my children were playing in the back yard just a few feet away and there I was, for all practical purposes, in another world. That was bad.
So, to pull all this together for the purpose of explaining the “About” of this blog, here are three things. First, this blog is written from my heart to my children. It is an area of teaching that I am officially ordained by God to carry out, just as he has ordained it with every Father. If you are a father I encourage you too to rise to the occasion. I am plowing my own field as I write, and there is a personal comfort I get with knowing that. Still, we live in a time of great fatherlessness, so in the mean time, if these letters admonish or bless you too, then I am likewise blessed twice.
Second, by making these public I not only welcome input, I ask for it. If there is an angle, a thought, a challenge, or any advice you’re willing to give that is consistent with my theology, then I am more than pleased. If it is not consistent with my theology, I won’t give you a hard time here. I have found fatherhood to be daunting. It wasn’t until I was in about waist-deep that I realized I’d never plumb the depths of it. Beware to all those who think they know too much… or even enough. I pray constantly that God would call my children to Himself, and to hinder all my efforts, however good intentioned they may be, that interfere with that end.
But there is another reason that I request your input. It is my ultimate goal with this blog to cull my favorite and best posts a few years from now and bind them into a nice book to be given to my children individually as a gift, probably for their 18th birthday, or maybe graduation. So please feel free to call me on misspelled homophones, bad punctuation, and the like. If you are still reading this, 700 plus words in, I guess what I am asking is that you do a little volunteer-editor work, if you have time and are willing. Also, with this in mind, know that I am in the habit of rereading and editing these posts, sometimes quite drastically.
And lastly, please have grace on me when it comes to responding to any comment that you leave. I have made it a goal to make one post every Sunday. When I do the enjoyable but difficult work of writing, I am drawing from a dry well as it pertains to inherent talent. Most of my posts are therefore time consuming. This fact coupled with the monster that would have me sitting here writing about fatherhood rather than actually being a father means that there will be some Sundays that I will not meet my goal. It also means that I may well not be prompt with a response should you leave a comment. Though I do like to acknowledge everyone who takes the time to say something, I don’t always. The reason is generally that I don’t know what to say, other than thank you, which, to me, would begin to appear monotonous. So let me say now, I never tire of receiving encouragement, and every positive comment or “like” is precious to me. I also always try to visit the sites of those who do make their presence known here, and could actually spend all my time doing just that, the truth be known. But there is that monster that I must keep tamed and at bay while at the same time fulfilling my goals as a here and as a father.
So there you have it. I hope you are blessed, admonished and encouraged by reading this blog. Feel free to copy and paste anything you see here, and though a link and/or credit would be nice, it is not necessary and you have my permission to use any of it without credit.